Are the baby witches confused?

A conversation that made me think
Last week a friend of my daughter (they are both 15 years old) came over to have lunch at our house and hang with my daughter for the afternoon.
While we were eating lunch, the topic of weird interests came out and the friend confessed she has a deep interest in magic and witchcraft. I guess she somewhat knew about me and what I do from my daughter (plus the altar with candles and bones smack dab in the middle of the house is kind of a hint) and was gently fishing to see if I could be of help.
Obviously, I am always happy to chat about magic and I was genuinely curious to find out what picked her interest and where this new generation is going to look for answers and guidance and what I discovered really made me think that, contrary to what we might think, these young witches probably have a rougher start ahead of them than we did.
My (debauched) adolescence
I have been into magic for as long as I can remember, even in my pre-school years, but I started seriously looking for material to educate myself when I was around 14 and I had the possibility to go to the library by myself or to order shady books at the bookstore and get glared at by the shop assistants. It was the dawn of the new millennium and in Italy witchcraft, even in its softest and more spiritualized forms, was really NOT mainstream.
This meant that the path to magic was really shrouded in mystery and rife with obstacles to be overcome. Like in a modern fairytale, inexperienced and passionate weirdos had to seek the few books that were available in our language and were usually not even immediately available on the shelves, we had to do tentative searches on the newborn internet (devoutly waiting the 15 to 20 minutes that were needed to charge each page) to find some scraps of information and seek like-minded individuals.
I remember doing stuff that would horrify many contemporary parents: going out to meetings with people I had never met before in person (almost all of them considerably older than me), traveling to distant cities and navigating them with a scrappy map at 15 just to attend an event; having your documents taken by police because someone had whispered in their ears that there were devil-worshippers doing all kinds of evil stuff in that one place over there.
A wild and confusing path
It was wild and funny and very often confusing because most of the time none of us had any precise idea of what we were doing but we were on a quest: the magic was there, somewhere just barely out of reach, and we were determined to find it.
I can still recognize the people that went through the same formative process because of their “can do” attitude and the tendency to work hard to build the kind of magical path that suits them instead of just waiting for it to fall into your lap. I don’t think that’s because we had our shit more together but simply because at the time the number of people that had any real training was extremely low (like, you wouldn’t need all your fingers to keep track of it kind of low) and so we found out the hard way that the vast majority of the people that were presenting themselves as teachers and guides were just making it up as they went along, just like we did.
Obviously, there are also some cons that come from that kind of background and one of the main ones is that many people that grew in that environment are not good at team work and community building: we are, as a rule, very used to doing things our own way and any kind of restriction or necessary compromise makes us bolt like a testy horse.
Do young witches really have it easier?
I know I am reminiscing and I probably sound like an old witch yelling at clouds but there’s a point in this so stick with me a little longer, if you can.
I have always thought that young witches nowadays have it easier because, from my perspective, the sheer abundance of publications, training programs, live events and even freely available material is basically what I would have killed to have when I was in my teens. And while it’s true that a good chunck of it is not exactly high quality, the good stuff is there and it’s relatively easy to find it. Even in my own country, the number of highly respected people with serious experience is not in the single digits anymore.
A short talk that changed my view
However, the short conversation I had with this one girl turned everything around for me, just like that.
It was not a surprise to find out that she is confused (weren’t we all?) and that she started by trying to evoke demons (didn’t we all?) but the thing that shocked me most of all was her complete inability to find good sources that could give her a sense of direction.
This smart girl was not dazed by the over-abundance of paths and possibilities, she was genuinely unaware that they existed at all.
Her introduction to witchcraft? A couple of dude-bros with a cringy youtube channel on paranormal stuff that purported themselves as experts of the occult (and if I sound judgemental on this I am completely at peace with it).

The Almighty Algorithm is an evil spell
How can it be? Haven’t we done all this work also because we wanted those who would come after us to have it easier?
We talked a little more.
I discovered something that I already suspected but that was never presented to me so clearly, which is the almost complete impermeability between online platforms in terms of how information is shared and received by different age groups. These new generations are very much used to the here and now and the idea of being on a quest doesn’t seem to galvanize them: they are not going to get excited about scavenging for the good stuff, and the kind of apprenticeship we used to dream about is likely to make them feel either bored or like it’s too much hassle, anyway.
And that’s not because they are not smart or because they don’t want to work hard (that is something that only people who have not deigned to talk with someone under the age of 25 in a decade would believe) but because online tech giants have been fucking us over for a long time now, messing with our brains, especially the way in which we access and elaborate information, and, even if everyone who has an internet connection is affected, the generations that were born after social media were a thing are disproportionally affected.
Defeated by a WitchTok hashtag
However, I discovered something about myself, as well. When this girl asked me where she could find reliable sources and material I found myself not knowing exactly what to say, because I perceived in that moment that the kind of stuff I routinely recommend was not at all made with the needs of this generation in mind and that I had not felt the need to keep up with WitchTok or the various influencers around, even if just to get an idea of which were the good ones of the bunch. Although we strived to do the exact opposite it seems that in a way we have let these young witches down and I am the last one to be able to cast stones since the very idea of making a TikTok video makes me break in hives.
Witchcraft and digital clutter
It seems that witchcraft is now, like reliable news, hidden by the sheer over-abundance of digital clutter and by algorithms that will push only the kind of stuff that serves the cannibalistic brand of capitalism that is devouring our democracies and our discernment at warp speed; and while being hidden is the natural state of witchcraft, this truth that once sparked stories of discovery is now being replaced by a plastic-like cacophony of entertainment that makes you believe that’s all there is. The fairytale doesn’t even get started.
There are no answers to be found in this article, only questions.
(And no: I won’t be doing a TikTok video anytime soon).
[Main image credits: frame from the anime “WitchWatch”]
Just do the spell. (And keep your mouth shut).

Many of us are at least passingly familiar with what are usually called the four pillars of Witchcraft or, more recently, the Witches’ Pyramid: To Know, To Will, To Dare, To Be Silent.
In the era of social media and of frantic attempts to catch people’s increasingly fleeting attention, the final part of this invitation, first uttered by occultist Eliphas Levi in Trascendental Magic, tends to fall flat. Silence, my dear Eliphas, doesn’t pay much nowadays, unless it goes with a catchy TikTok dance and a cat filter.

Eliphas, I’m sure, would have fit right in.
The hidden strength of silence
I have long subscribed to the idea that witchcraft, by definition, can’t have laws in a prescriptive sense but just long-held observations on what tends to work and what doesn’t and this rings true for one of the exhortations contained in the pyramid: to keep silent regarding one’s own magical work.
While I don’t think openly disclosing the aim and structure of a spell before it has reached its goal is always going to end badly (and some types of seduction spells or curses might even capitalize on the effect of forewarning one’s target), it is fair to say that it’s not a generally advisable thing to do in terms of efficacy.
If it works, who cares?
As an art that is mostly concerned with making things work, no matter how pretty or messy they might look or how much logical sense they seem to make, witchcraft doesn’t require lengthy philosophical explanations on why certain things, as a general rule, seem to work better than other or speculations on the reasons behind a distinctive feeling shared by many that choosing a certain way to do something simply feels to align properly with the forces at play. If it works, who cares, right?
However, many sorcerers and witches seem to be quite nerdy fellows (should we blame this on RPGs? Or on the ancient and cross-cultural fascination with books containing forbidden magic?), thus we tend to enjoy immensely trying to peek behind the curtain and get a glimpse of what gets magic ticking, of the inner and mysterious workings of the universe.
Fragility and over-exposure of spells
Most practitioners I have discussed this subject with have reported feeling like a spell, especially immediately before and after being cast, needs to be protected from over-exposure. Like a still frail shoot peeping out from the soil, or a temperamental soufflé rising in the oven, it feels like a newly born spell could be killed by overwhelming attention: every time its name is uttered is an over-generous watering or an anxious adjusting of the temperature.
Personally, I have come to the conclusion that a spell is a creature, and like all other creatures, and especially those that are not firmly anchored to a physical body, it can be swayed and shaped by other creatures’ opinions, feelings and expectations about them. This process, as any caring and attentive parent could tell you, is particularly relevant when it comes to creatures that are very young and have yet to find the shape they wish to inhabit in this world.
Ideas, projects, and magical boundaries
Have you ever kept a new idea or a budding project to yourself until you felt it was solid enough to withstand the attention of others and the vagaries of chance without getting warped by them? I am sure you have and that you can understand what I’m talking about.
Let the spell do what it must
When a spell comes into this world it is imbued with adamantine purpose and precise focus: it does not need to stop and eavesdrop on everything that is being said about it, to worry that the form it’s taking does not conform to the one others are expecting of it or to get confused by the conflicting emotions that are thrown at it.
We want our spell to take the shape that will work best in the moment and to sail proudly, or to saunter saucily, towards its goal. We certainly don’t want it to get overwhelmed with existential confusion and crippling social anxiety: we humans are already way too good at that on our own.
Silence as protection — even today
However, there are other reasons to observe silence in magic, aside from concerns about efficacy. Reasons that we may have thought would not be relevant anymore in contemporary democratic societies. But they are.
The assassination of Charlie Kirk (if you don’t know who he was I envy you, google him at your peril) has caused a stir in the witchcraft community last week, when, shortly after the news about his death came out, an article from a feminist online media platform dated to a few days prior started circulating on social media. In the article the writers described the process of getting in touch with witches offering their services on Etsy and paying them to curse Charlie Kirk. The whole thing had a tongue-in-cheek tone, sprinkled with a hopeful undertone of “Eh, what if it works?”.
I can’t link the article here because, after the initial backlash, it has been swiftly removed from Jezebel’s website and the whole thing has been addressed in a public statement.

Why silence still matters in modern times
I am not here to talk about Charlie Kirk, to discuss his death or to spout a few circumstantial and superficial phrases about political violence, instead I want to use this example to talk about why witchcraft is best performed in silence, even in contemporary “western” democracies.
The fallout after the Jezebel article perfectly encapsulates the potential unwanted consequences of being a little too open about what’s brewing in your cauldron: previously unconcerned people start questioning if it should be legal to sell spells at all, atavistic (and never really tamed) fear starts stirring even in the souls of staunch rationalists and religious fundamentalists are giddy with the smell of golden opportunities.
Deep-rooted fears and cautious minds
No matter how much the modern man or woman might swear that they consider magic to be just a kind of particularly colorful psychology or, at worst, a delusion that grips people with sub-par intellectual abilities, there is something deeply embedded in them that is conditioned to react to it with a healthy dose of caution.
If you don’t want to take my word for it, just try and ask someone if they would give you a personal concern of theirs so that you can curse them. You will find that precious few will do it and that the majority of those who dare are motivated by the desire to prove themselves above such things than by genuine unconcern, like a toddler that grits their teeth before a vaccination jab and later swears they were never afraid at all.
Magic still lives on the margins
Despite the efforts to present it as an entirely harmless pastime powered by pure (and sometimes exceedingly saccharine) spirituality, the most progressive democracies are not truly ready to embrace magic, and if witchcraft as a religion (in its many variations) has found some acceptance, the practice of witchcraft is still solidly in the fringes.
Reminding the public at large exactly WHY that ancient part of their brain shies away from what we do is not a good idea, and in the current political climate it gives religious fundamentalists in power the perfect excuse to unleash on us heretics the level of discrimination they have always dreamed of.
Go public if you can, but keep the lid on your cauldron
Being out of the broom closet (if your society, your job and your family make it possible) is a wonderful thing and I am not at all discouraging you from doing it, here I am writing about witchcraft in my very public website with my name all over it, but spells that are meant to achieve their goal shouldn’t be crafted in an open-kitchen witch lair.
Activism vs Witchcraft (and a final word)
“What about the activism-like type of spells that are supposed to be as public and widespread as possible?” I can well imagine some of you asking. Well, the fact is that activism and witchcraft are two different arts that work in different ways and it pains me to say that the vast majority of spells that are devised to be shared far and wide are not very good, magically speaking.
Personally, I find that even public spell campaigns like these need to have a secret inner skeleton to maneuver them if they are to have a chance to actually hit their target: the widespread attention is the fuel but something that is not visible to the public needs to be at the helm. You may say that it’s somewhat sneaky to conceal from people who should be allies the inner core of a magical work and you might be right about that but, hey, I’m a witch: what did you expect?
Look at your life and at the world around you to decide, with clarity, wisdom, a hint of mischief and a deep sense of responsibility, what spells you are going to create.
Do it. Then shut up about it.
